New Members and Older Members Observation

[foxgloveparrot]

Why does it feel like there are two families here-
one for the OGs and one for the new members
Edit: shortest thread I’ve ever written lol, so I thought I’d add more.
Please, please don’t assume this is a vent or anything-I’m not talking about myself, I’m talking about PF as a whole. We ARE a family, I know that, and I’m so honored to be a part of it. This is just a random thought that I realized is on my mind every time I log on, so. Yup.
Thanks. If you’re reading this you’re awesome, have a great day.

 

[Squeekmouse]

Why does it feel like there are two families here-
one for the OGs and one for the new members

Because the new members need a little more time for the full addiction to kick in?

 

[Laurasea]

Just like anything friendships and connections deepen over time.

We've seen each other add new babies or suffer loss of our beloved parrots. Squeaking was there for me during my darkest time

 

[Terry57]

Why does it feel like there are two families here-
one for the OGs and one for the new members

It has never felt that way to me, even when I was new. I felt accepted into the PF family almost immediately. What makes you feel that way?

 

[Laurasea]

It has never felt that way to me, even when I was new. I felt accepted into the PF family almost immediately. What makes you feel that way?

This is also true ! We've been all over your threads, and all the newer members have been very active and fun

 

[foxgloveparrot]

It has never felt that way to me, even when I was new. I felt accepted into the PF family almost immediately. What makes you feel that way?

I don't know. It just does.

 

[Terry57]

I don't know. It just does.

I'm sorry it feels that way to you, there are many other people who feel different, and do not believe the forum is divided. There is no way of knowing what it is you're missing if you can't even put a name on it.

 

[SailBoat]

It is not uncommon for individuals that join a well established long lived organization to sometimes feel like they are near some kind of outer edge. That is commonly based on the reality of finding oneself in a mix of individuals that have stood arm and arm with others that have suffered great losses and great joy over time.. Being new is never easy anywhere.

 

[Squeekmouse]

When I was new, I felt like more of an observer than a family member. The OG's all knew each other and knew each other's names and even met in person some times... I felt welcomed and accepted but I always felt like a newbie... until I realized that I wasn't a newbie and there were people here who knew me and respected what I had to say... and then I realized it was always that way, I was the only one who kept me apart from the others.

You are just as much a part of the PF Family as you want to be. Believe me.

 

[Cottonoid]

I don't know. It just does.

I'm sorry if you feel you haven't quite found your place yet. Sailboat's words sum up my perspective perfectly.

I've been part of forums around different topics for a long time, and I do notice that where I feel I "fit in" right away is pretty different from group to group. I lurked here for months before joining, so I felt like I had a good feel of the general culture and vibe. What surprised me after joining and participating a little, though, is that the people I'm drawn to are totally different than the posts/people I was drawn to as a lurker! It's so weird to me!

I can definitely see the deep bonds here that people share and have developed over time. On other forums I've been part of people will tend to stick to their "journal" threads and that can feel lonely as a newbie until you've developed friendships. I've had lots of posts elsewhere with no replies lol. I've also felt super close to a bunch of people on a forum that a year later felt off and not close at all. Building relationships through text, over a subject each of us cares about a lot, isn't always the easiest thing to do.

For me it's kind of like, I'm at a family reunion with a bunch of aunties and uncles I don't really know, and then a bunch of cousins I don't really know. It's going to feel like a divide between the aunties/uncles and cousins, and it will probably be a lot easier for me to start connecting with my cousins, even though we're all the same family.

I hope you keep at it, though 💚

 

[foxgloveparrot]

It’s not about me-
Thanks tho

 

[Terry57]

It’s not about me-
Thanks tho

I'm confused, aren't we talking about your views about PF?

 

[Terry57]

When I was new, I felt like more of an observer than a family member. The OG's all knew each other and knew each other's names and even met in person some times... I felt welcomed and accepted but I always felt like a newbie... until I realized that I wasn't a newbie and there were people here who knew me and respected what I had to say... and then I realized it was always that way, I was the only one who kept me apart from the others.

You are just as much a part of the PF Family as you want to be. Believe me.

Perfectly stated, Squeek.

 

[Laurasea]

I am Asking this even if its obvious. ( just not to me)

What is og????

 

[Terry57]

I am Asking this even if its obvious. ( just not to me)

What is og????

Not obvious at all, here is the definition:

https://www.dictionary.com/e/slang/og/

 

[Laurasea]

Well I'm glad I worked up the nerve to ask! Thanks Terry 😊

I was thinking maybe it ment Old Guard

Definition of THE OLD GUARD

the usually older members of an organization (such as a political party) who do not want or like change… See the full definition

www.merriam-webster.com

 

[Terry57]

Well I'm glad I worked up the nerve to ask! Thanks Terry 😊

I was thinking maybe it ment Old Guard

My pleasure! I like "Old Guard".

 

[Laurasea]

well old guard had postive associations for me as just like sounds ...
But then Google it and said resistant to change...and thats not how I remembered it

 

[Terry57]

well old guard had postive associations for me as just like sounds ...
But then Google it and said resistant to change...and thats not how I remembered it

I don't remember that either. Maybe I don't like Old Guard after all...lol

 

[BirdyBee]

I was told by my siblings it means Over Geared(when I asked them years ago cuz they kept on using "OG").. though they play shooting games like Fortnite or Call of Duty(my older sibling) That's probably where they got it from🤪😂

I think the meaning of OG depends on the context 🤷‍♀️ I don't know lol