I went earlier in June to meet several birds at a rescue. There was not a rescue near me so I drove from north ms to Cincinnati oh. I met a special bird who won my heart. She was friendly with everyone but really seemed to like me best. She is 18 and is an umbrella cockatoo. The rescue just received her and had little to no information on her. I paid her fee and went home and bought everything she'd need. I went back about 3 weeks later, this past Saturday and picked her up. She remembered me and stepped right up for me. My husband had no trouble with her but she again continued to return to me. We spent about 2 hours with her and started home. In the car, we opened her cage and she chose to ride in my husband's lap. This is fine and we assumed it may be something with the drivers seat. We got home and she did excellent with my teenage daughter and we got her settled in for the night. The next day we spent all day taking turns with her. She bit me when I opened a puppy pad for her cage to lay on the floor. Then She was back to picking me. This was going perfectly. I was holding her and she was messing with a blanket Burroughing in it which I later discovered was her nesting. I took the blanket as she was tearing it up. My daughter played with her a bit and I wanted her back. She came back over and bit me. I fully expected to experience bites. But she was charging me. Since then she has seriously been trying to attack me at all cost. The next day we made a point for she and I to be alone to work on our bond. My husband stayed outside working most of the day and my daughter was away. I had her in my lap and my husband got up to check on our chickens before bed. The minute he left she bit me climbed up my lap to my scalp, bit me several more times. I got over to the cage and she got on it. I had to stand there and stare her down until my husband got back and she happily stepped up for him and got in her cage. I left with a shoulder bite, three scalp bites, a puncture to my ear, and a bite to the hand. Today she has had it out for me. I have only spoken to her through the cage. My husband got her out to mist her. She ran over to me and said step up. I obliged and scratched her for a bit and she then hit my finger with no warning. I went to put her back on the cage and again she attempted to climb up my scalp but my husband grabbed her this time. I did spend time rubbing under her wings due to being told this was fine since she had already had it done for so long I shouldnt change this. So did my family though. She is showing extreme hormonal behavior towards only me. I do not think this is an adjustment issue as she is the perfect bird for everyone else. She is now even destroying her toys when I'm near her cage but if it's anyone else she is talking happily to them. No one wanted this bird but me. They were fine with me having one but I am the only one willing to be a caregiver. I know adjustments take time but I think the snap in behavior and her exhibiting it only to me is maybe a long term problem. I am covered in wounds, bites, and bruises. The rescue is happy to take her back. There were several applications for her as she really is the perfect bird. Do I throw in the towel or suffer through? I just don't know if I can change her feelings towards me as she has become very violent with me and only me. I realize I should give her time but as her primary caregiver it's really hard to take care of a bird who hates only you and is complete sweetheart to everyone else. I feel like I need to find a better fit. If she wad acting this way towards all of us I think I could work through it but she has it out for only me. Any suggestions? Advice? Is this something we can overcome? I just do not understand the complete 180 in her love for me. I've never raised my voice to her in all of this. I have remained calm every time she has bitten me. I did cry a little after first attack and she set in her cage .ocking my crying noises and laughing in between. My husband wanted me to give her more time but he was able to witness her attack tonight and says she probably needs to go back so she can find a better fit. I am devastated as I truly had the perfect bird and now this. Do I work through this and hope we overcome it or throw in the Towel and try another bird. I wanted a male but she was so sweet I gave in and chose her.