Lost my girl through stupidity

tonycgi

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This was horrible!
I put my Alice, a sun conure, on her cage and went downstairs to do some stuff.
I was doing some cleaning and headed upstairs to clean the bathroom and discovered Alice in the toilet bowl, drowned.
She's had problems and couldn't fly far, but somehow she made it accross the hall and landed in the bowl.

I'm heartbroken, I normally close the bowl , but I was cleaning and forgot to. I still can't believe it, I feel so bad, I loved her so much.
I can't stop blaming myself.
 

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I'm so very sorry for your loss of Alice. This is a mistake any of us could make, please don't blame yourself. It's obvious how much you loved Alice, and I know she loved you in the same way.
I hope that soon the hurtful memories will start to be replaced by the happy ones of your life together.
My heart goes out to you.
Fly free, Beautiful Alice, you will always be loved, missed and remembered.
 

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I'm so sorry what an awful shock.
I whish you didn't have to go through this. You know it was not your fault , not at all.

Id love to see a picture of Alice if you want to share.

I had my budgie in a hospital Cage. He had received antibiotics and recovered. But spooked and hit something ended up not being able to recover from the brain damage.

All I could think was how unfair. We love them and give them the best care we can.
 
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Thanks Laura,

I'm sorry to hear about your budgie, unfair doesn't describe the depth your loss.

About six months ago Alice was falling on her side and couldn't fly at all. Scared the hell out of me. The vet said she probably hit her head and may or may not recover, but she did to a large degree. I didn't think she could make it to the bathroom, though.
 
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This was horrible!
I put my Alice, a sun conure, on her cage and went downstairs to do some stuff.
I was doing some cleaning and headed upstairs to clean the bathroom and discovered Alice in the toilet bowl, drowned.
She's had problems and couldn't fly far, but somehow she made it accross the hall and landed in the bowl.

I'm heartbroken, I normally close the bowl , but I was cleaning and forgot to. I still can't believe it, I feel so bad, I loved her so much.
I can't stop blaming myself.
Toni,
This was an absolute freak accident. I just lost a young sun conure 2 weeks ago because I didn’t pull down the shades and he flew into a window.

Please do not blame yourself. It is impossible to account for every danger and possibility.

I know you are feeling mortified and in shock. You must forgive yourself. AND, if you are a person of faith, you know you will meet again.

My sincerest condolences to you and Alice!
 

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I think there is something in parrot people that we know how special and fragile having a bird is. And with all the thinking and planning we do to make them happy it's even harder when something happens. We always trying to think of everything.
Hang in there it's going to be ruff but it has to get better some time
 

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Don't hate yourself, please, be proud of yourself for having given her such a beautiful life while you could. I'm very sorry. We're here for you, I hope you're ok ❤️
 

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You have my deepest condolences for Alice's passing. Tragic accidents occur despite our most conscientious efforts. Please allow yourself time to grieve and focus on loving, positive times with Alice.
 
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Don't hate yourself, please, be proud of yourself for having given her such a beautiful life while you could. I'm very sorry. We're here for you, I hope you're ok ❤️

You have my deepest condolences for Alice's passing. Tragic accidents occur despite our most conscientious efforts. Please allow yourself time to grieve and focus on loving, positive times with Alice.
Thanks Scott and foxgloveparrot, Your thoughts help quite a bit.
I don't know how I'm replying to both of you , this board has me a little confused.
 

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